Today, I am very sad as I think about all of the standards that this world sets for young girls to live up to in order to be considered “beautiful” or “sexy” enough. I feel sorry for those young girls who are trying to make it through high school, just trying to fit in, but believe the lies that being promiscuous is the way to get attention. I wish that I could talk to each girl who is having doubts about their self image or believing that they are not good enough by just being their innocent selves. I want to tell them, “you are beautiful”. I want to tell them why purity is so important and convince them that if they are patient and respectful to themselves, they will save a lot of regret later. I know that it was a scandalous world when I was in high school and that it was difficult to make modest decisions then, but I can’t imagine the pressure that high school girls are facing to go along with the trend to have sex with anyone they are attracted to or in a relationship with. I am not married, so I don’t know how it feels to have sex with your husband, but I am convinced without a shadow of a doubt that God intends for us to experience the most beautiful thing in the world inside a husband and wife relationship. The more relationships I experience, the more thankful I am that I have one thing that only my husband and I will experience together. It gives me so much sadness to think that the world is convincing women in every stage of life that it is normal to sleep with multiple people, anytime the passion and attraction is present. I want to convince the young men that even though their testosterone levels are telling them differently, that they should respect themselves and their future spouses enough to wait to have sex. I don’t know if any of this blog made sense to anyone reading it, but I am broken inside trying to make a little bit of a difference for these men and women who are cheating themselves out of the best possible experience in a marriage.
For those men and women who have already passed that borderline of premarital sex, I don’t want to sound critical and condescending. I can’t imagine the pain and hurt and regret you might be feeling if that relationship didn’t work out as you planned. I want you to know that you are still desired and loved by God the same as you were before you made that decision. Please, don’t tell yourself that you are too far gone, or that you have made too many mistakes to start over. Because you haven’t. You can start fresh whenever you want with a clean slate. It will be a difficult journey to make, but if you depend on God for all of your strength, I know that it is possible.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,” Acts 3:19
“Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity And cleanse me from my sin.” Psalm 51:2
“Purify me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.” Psalm 51:7
I hope that this post impacts at least one person today. I am far from perfect and everything I wrote is completely out of love for girls who are struggling to find truth in this crazy, messed up world. I am praying that God will cleanse us from our sins and turn our heads to him.